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Õåëëèíãåð Á. Ïîðÿäêè ëþáâè: Ðàçðåøåíèå ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíûõ êîíôëèêòîâ è ïðîòèâîðå÷èé

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Ïðåäèñëîâèå ê ðóññêîìó èçäàíèþ...............................................................11

Ïðåäèñëîâèå............................................................................................... 12

Ïîçíàíèå ïóòåì îòêàçà...............................................................................15

Ïîçíàíèå............................................................................................. 16

Íàó÷íûé è ôåíîìåíîëîãè÷åñêèé ïóòü ïîçíàíèÿ............................. 17

Ôåíîìåíîëîãè÷åñêèé ìåòîä...............................................................17

Îòêàç îò íàìåðåíèé............................................................................ 18

Ìóæåñòâî............................................................................................. 18

Ñîãëàñèå.............................................................................................. 18

Ôèëîñîôñêàÿ ôåíîìåíîëîãèÿ............................................................19

Ôåíîìåíîëîãè÷åñêèé ìåòîä â ïñèõîòåðàïèè....................................20

Äóøà.....................................................................................................21

Ðåëèãèîçíàÿ ôåíîìåíîëîãèÿ..............................................................22

Âîçâðàùåíèå........................................................................................22

Ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíûå ïåðåïëåòåíèÿ è èõ ðàçðåøåíèÿ.

Ñàìîïîçíàâàòåëüíûé è îáðàçîâàòåëüíûé êóðñ........,..............................25

Äåíü ïåðâûé..........................................................................................26

Îïàñíîå ïîâåäåíèå.............................................................................26

Íàáëþäåíèå ñàìîãî ñåáÿ ïðè ðàññòàíîâêå.......................................27

Áîëüøå èëè ìåíüøå............................................................................28

Äâîéíîé ïåðåíîñ..................................................................................28

Ñòàðøèíñòâî ïåðâîé æåíùèíû.....................................................29

Ñ÷àñòüå ïóãàåò................................................................................30

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ñûí ïðèíèìàåò ðîëü áðàòà ìàòåðè........................30

Ðàçíèöà ìåæäó èäåíòèôèêàöèåé è èäåàëîì.................................38

Ïðèíöèï ìèíèìàëèçìà....................................................................38

Èíäèâèäóàöèÿ óìåíüøàåò áëèçîñòü â îòíîøåíèÿõ ìåæäó ëþäüìè ... 39

Ëþáîâü è ïîðÿäîê...........................................................................40

Èåðàðõèÿ ïðèíàäëåæíîñòè................................................................41

Ïðåâîñõîäñòâî ïåðâîé ñâÿçè..........................................................41

Èåðàðõèÿ ïîðÿäêîâ.............................................................................42

Èåðàðõèÿ âíóòðè ñåìåéñòâ.................................................................42

Èíòèìíàÿ ñôåðà..................................................................................43

Ðàíã îòíîøåíèé â ñëó÷àå ðàçâîäà.....................................................43

Èåðàðõèÿ â îðãàíèçàöèÿõ...................................................................45

Âîçðàæåíèå..........................................................................................46

Ðåøåíèå íå èìåòü äåòåé.....................................................................47

Îñóùåñòâëåííîå è íåîñóùåñòâëåííîå...............................................47

Ïîñëåäñòâèÿ ïîäîáíîãî âûáîðà äëÿ îòíîøåíèé.................................48

Âðàæäåáíîå íàñòðîåíèå......................................................................48

Ïëîõèå îòìåòêè â øêîëå....................................................................49

Ïåðåæèòûé òðàóð................................................................................49

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Äî÷ü çàìåùàåò óìåðøóþ ñåñòðó îòöà...........................50

Óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå ñèë ñ ïîìîùüþ ïëîõîãî......................................53

Ïîðÿäêè ëþáâè...................................................................................54

Óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå ñ ïîìîùüþ óâàæåíèÿ...........................................55

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Æèçíü çà ñ÷åò äðóãèõ....................................................55

Îíè çäåñü.............................................................................................57

Ïðèçíàíèå ëè÷íîé âèíû - èñòî÷íèê ñèëû.....................................64

Ïîìî÷ü îòöó ñîõðàíèòü ëèöî.............................................................65

Ñòðàäàòü ëåã÷å, ÷åì ðàçðåøèòü ïðîáëåìó.............................................65

Ðàçðåøåíèå ïðîáëåì ïóòåì ñìèðåíèÿ ïðè÷èíÿåò áîëü...................66

Ïðåðâàííîå äâèæåíèå ëþáâè ê........................................................67

Áîëè â ïëå÷àõ......................................................................................69

Ðåøèòü ïðîáëåìó áåç äîëãèõ ðàçäóìèé..............................................69

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ìàòü ïðèãðîçèëà óáèòü ñåáÿ âìåñòå ñ äåòüìè.............70

Ïîñëåäñòâèÿ óãðîçû óáèéñòâà è äðóãèõ òÿæåëûõ ïðåñòóïëåíèé

â ñåìüå..............................................................................................76

Ïîòåðÿâøèé ïðàâî íà ïðèíàäëåæíîñòü ê ñèñòåìå äîëæåí óéòè.....78

Äîâåðèå âíóòðåííåé êàðòèíå.............................................................79

Îòâåòñòâåííîñòü òåðàïåâòà.................................................................80

Î ìåòîäå, èñïîëüçîâàííîì ïðè ðàññòàíîâêå ñåìüè Òýè..................81

Ïåðåíÿòîå çàìåøàòåëüñòâî.................................................................81

Óãðîçà ñàìîóáèéñòâà ìàòåðè..............................................................82

Êîíåö...................................................................................................83

Èãðà ñî ñìåðòüþ..................................................................................85

Ìîãèëà.................................................................................................86

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Èçãíàííûå ðîäñòâåííèêè.............................................86

×ëåíû ñåìåéíîé ñèñòåìû..................................................................92

Æèâûå è ìåðòâûå, óáèéöû è èõ æåðòâû, ñâÿçàííûå ìåæäó ñîáîé

îáùåé ñóäüáîé..................................................................................93

Âîçäåéñòâèå âíóòðåííåé êàðòèíû íà ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíóþ

äèíàìèêó..........................................................................................94

Óãðîçà ñàìîóáèéñòâà ñî ñòîðîíû æåíû.............................................94

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Äî÷ü çàìåùàåò áûâøóþ íåâåñòó îòöà..........................95

Áëàãîïðèÿòíîå ìåñòî äëÿ äåòåé.........................................................99

Áåññîçíàòåëüíàÿ èäåíòèôèêàöèÿ ñ áûâøèì ïàðòíåðîì

îäíîãî èç ðîäèòåëåé........................................................................100

Âîëÿ Áîãà è ÷åëîâåê...........................................................................101

Ìàòü, ñòðàäàþùàÿ íàðêîìàíèåé, è åå ðåáåíîê...............................103

×òî ïðèâîäèò ê íàðêîòè÷åñêîé çàâèñèìîñòè...................................104

Ïðèñòðàñòèå ê íàðêîòèêàì êàê ñàìîíàêàçàíèå...............................106

Èíòóèöèÿ ñâÿçàíà ñ ëþáîâüþ............................................................107

Èñöåëåíèå ïóòåì äâèæåíèÿ ëþáâè ê ìàòåðè....................................107

Ïðîáëåìà ïðåðâàííîãî äâèæåíèÿ ê ëþáèìîìó ÷åëîâåêó

è åå ðåøåíèå....................................................................................108

Ðåøåíèå ïðîáëåìû ñ ïîìîùüþ çàìåñòèòåëåé ðîäèòåëåé................109

Òåðàïèÿ ñ ïîìîùüþ ãëóáîêîãî ïîêëîíà............................................109

Äâèæåíèå ÷åðåç ðîäèòåëåé äàëüøå....................................................111

Äåíü âòîðîé.........................................................................................112

Ìñòèòü, èãðàÿ æåðòâó.........................................................................112

Óâåðåíèå.............................................................................................113

Êîìïåíñàöèÿ......................................................................................113

Íåîæèäàííîå îáëåã÷åíèå..................................................................113

Äîñòèæåíèå ìèðîëþáèâîé ïîçèöèè.................................................113

Ðàñïîçíàòü äèíàìèêó äâîéíîãî ïåðåíîñà.........................................114

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Èñöåëåíèå äâîéíîãî ïåðåíîñà.....................................114

Ïðîùåíèå íå ðåêîìåíäóåòñÿ..............................................................118

Ïîñëåäñòâèÿ äëÿ ðåáåíêà...................................................................119

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Óìåðøèå â äåòñòâå áðàòüÿ............................................120

Ïîëíîòà âðåìåíè................................................................................126

Íàïðàñíàÿ áîðüáà..............................................................................127

Ïåðåíÿòûé òðàóð îñëàáëÿåò...............................................................127

Ïðîáëåìó ìîæíî ðåøèòü, åñëè íå çàöèêëèâàòüñÿ íà íåé...............128

Êîãäà ìû ïåðåãðóæåíû ñ÷àñòüåì.......................................................129

Ðàçâîä è âèíà......................................................................................129

Ïðè ëåãêîìûñëåííîì ðàçâîäå ðîäèòåëåé äåòè íàêàçûâàþò

ñàìèõ ñåáÿ........................................................................................130

Èíñòèíêòèâíîå óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå ïîñðåäñòâîì èñêóïëåíèÿ.........130

Âèíà êàê ñðåäñòâî îòðèöàíèÿ ðåàëüíîñòè........................................131

Çíà÷åíèå ñåêñóàëüíûõ îòíîøåíèé ïðè ñîçäàíèè ñèñòåìíûõ

ñâÿçåé..............................................................................................132

Îáëàñòü âëèÿíèÿ ìàòåðè....................................................................132

Ðàçëè÷íûå ñïîñîáû «äàâàòü» äðóãèì è «áðàòü» îò äðóãèõ â ñåìüå ... 133

Ëþáîâü ê ïðîáëåìàì..........................................................................134

Ïðèíÿòü íà ñåáÿ ðîëü æåðòâû...........................................................135

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Îòåö — âíåáðà÷íûé ðåáåíîê, îòåö îòöà —

çàïðåùåííàÿ òåìà â ñåìüå...............................................................136

Ïàðåíòèôèöèðîâàíèå: Ðåáåíîê ïðèíèìàåò íà ñåáÿ ðîëü

ðîäèòåëÿ ïî îòíîøåíèþ ê ñîáñòâåííûì ðîäèòåëÿì.....................141

Èñêóïëåíèå çà ñìåðòü ïðè ðîäàõ.......................................................141

Ñàìîîáìàí.........................................................................................144

Îòåö è ñûí..........................................................................................147

Íåèçâåñòíûé äåäóøêà........................................................................148

Óâàæåíèå ê ìàòåðè.............................................................................148

Ñìåùåííîå óñåðäèå............................................................................149

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Äî÷ü èäåíòèôèöèðóåòñÿ ñ áûâøåé íåâåñòîé îòöà,

ïåðåíèìàÿ åå ÷óâñòâà......................................................................150

Îáúåêòèâíàÿ è ñóáúåêòèâíàÿ âèíà ðåáåíêà......................................154

Òîñêà ïî îòöó......................................................................................154

Î ðàíãå ìóæà è æåíû â ñåìüå............................................................155

Æåíà äîëæíà ñëåäîâàòü çà ìóæåì, à ìóæ — ñëóæèòü åé..................156

Íàïðàñíàÿ ëþáîâü.............................................................................157

×òî ÿ òåáå òàêîãî ñäåëàë, ÷òî ÿ òàê çîë íà òåáÿ?...............................158

Çëîñòü êàê çàùèòà îò áîëè.................................................................159

Ñäåðæàííàÿ çëîñòü.............................................................................159

Î çëîñòè..............................................................................................160

Îñòîðîæíîñòü è ìóæåñòâî.................................................................161

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ñûí çàìåùàåò áûâøåãî æåíèõà ìàòåðè.....................162

Ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíûé îðãàí ðàâíîâåñèÿ............................................164

Î ñîâåñòè............................................................................................165

Íåâèíîâíîñòü.....................................................................................166

Ñîâåñòü è óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå..............................................................167

Ïîçèòèâíîå è íåãàòèâíîå óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå....................................167

Ãðàíèöû îáìåíà..................................................................................169

Óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå ñ ïîìîùüþ áëàãîäàðíîñòè è ñìèðåíèÿ..............169

Áåñêîíå÷íàÿ ÿñíîñòü óìà...................................................................170

Îñòàâèòü â ïîêîå òî, ÷òî áûëî..........................................................170

Ïëàìÿ è ïåïåë....................................................................................171

Èñ÷åçíîâåíèå áîëåé âñïèíå.............................................................172

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Íàðóøåííîå ðàâåíñòâî è çàêîí óðàâíîâåøèâàíèÿ.....172

Ðåâíîñòü è óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå............................................................176

Íåâèíîâíîñòü è ìåñòü........................................................................177

Âåðíîñòü è íåâåðíîñòü.......................................................................177

Ïåðåíÿòàÿ ìåñòü.................................................................................178

Ðàçìûøëåíèÿ î íåâèíîâíîñòè..........................................................179

Ïîäàðîê äëÿ ìàòåðè............................................................................179

Ðåøåíèÿ ïðè êðèçèñå ëåãêî ïðèíèìàþòñÿ, êîãäà äîñòèãíóòà

åãî êðàéíÿÿ òî÷êà............................................................................179

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Èçìåíåíèå âíóòðåííåé äèíàìèêè...............................180

Äåíü òðåòèé........................................................................................183

Áåñåäû.................................................................................................183

Ïåðåíÿòûå ñèìïòîìû........................................................................183

Åâðåéñêîå ïðîèñõîæäåíèå.................................................................184

×óâñòâî ìåðû......................................................................................185

Îáëåã÷åíèå.........................................................................................186

Öåíà....................................................................................................186

Èñõîäíîå íåãàòèâíîå ÷óâñòâî è êàê åãî èçìåíèòü...........................188

Èñöåëåíèå ñ ïîìîùüþ ëþáâè............................................................189

Çàïðÿòàííîå ñ÷àñòüå...........................................................................190

Ïîçíàíèå äðóãîãî ðîäà.......................................................................190

Îòäàâàòü ÷òî-òî äðóãîìó, íå ïðèíèìàÿ íè÷åãî âçàìåí....................191

Íîâàÿ òî÷êà çðåíèÿ............................................................................192

Íåîáîñíîâàííûå ïðåäñòàâëåíèÿ îé èäåàëüíîé ñâÿçè......................192

«Äàâàòü» è «áðàòü» â îòíîøåíèÿõ ìåæäó ìóæ÷èíîé è æåíùèíîé ... 193

Ïîçâîëèòü àôôåêòèâíîìó äàâëåíèþ óòå÷ü.......................................194

Ðåëèãèîçíàÿ ïðîáëåìàòèêà...............................................................194

Ïå÷àëü ïî ïîãèáøèì..........................................................................195

Ðîäèòåëè äåòåé-èíâàëèäîâ: êàê èì ïîìî÷ü, ñîõðàíÿÿ èõ

äîñòîèíñòâî.....................................................................................195

×òî ïðîèñõîäèò, êîãäà ðåáåíîê çàíèìàåò íå ñîîòâåòñòâóþùåå

ñâîåìó ðàíãó ìåñòî â ñèñòåìå.........................................................196

Íà ïîëïóòè ê ñ÷àñòüþ........................................................................198

Èìåòü èëè íå èìåòü ðåáåíêà..............................................................198

Âòîðàÿ æåíà........................................................................................199

Æåëàíèå áðîñèòü êóðèòü....................................................................200

Ñïîñîá èçáàâèòüñÿ îò ãîëîâíûõ áîëåé........................................ 200

Óâàæàÿ óìåðøèõ, óâàæàòü Áîãà..........................................................201

Îòêàç â óðàâíîâåøèâàíèè............................................................201

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Èäåíòèôèêàöèÿ ìëàäøåé äî÷åðè ñ ìàòåðüþ ìàòåðè ... 202

Ïðèíèìàòü èëè íå ïðèíèìàòü íàñëåäñòâî....................................205

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Âëèÿíèå ñóäüáû......................................................207

Êîðîòêàÿ áåñåäà..............................................................................214

Ñòîÿòü, îïèðàÿñü íà îáå íîãè........................................................214

Ïîáåã îò ïîëíîòû ñ÷àñòüÿ...............................................................214

Î öåëîñòíîñòè ÷åëîâåêà.....................................................................214

Ïðàçäíèê............................................................................................215

Ðàçíèöà ìåæäó ñèìïàòèåé è óâàæåíèåì...........................................216

Ðàâíûå ñðåäè ðàâíûõ..........................................................................216

Ïðèìèðÿþùåå ïîçíàíèå...................................................................217

Î ñâîáîäå è íåñâîáîäå........................................................................218

Ñäåðæàííîñòü îáåñïå÷èâàåò ýíåðãèåé âîñïðèÿòèÿ è ñèëîé............218

Ãðàíèöû íåâèíîâíîñòè......................................................................218

Ïðèçíàíèå ïîñëåäñòâèé íàøèõ ðåøåíèé îáëåã÷àåò æèçíü.............219

Íåîáõîäèìîñòü âíóòðåííåãî óâàæåíèÿ ðîäñòâåííèêîâ...................220

Êàê ïîìî÷ü æåðòâàì ñåêñóàëüíîãî ñîâðàùåíèÿ...............................220

Êàê ïîìî÷ü ÷ëåíàì ñåìüè, ñîâåðøèâøèì ñåêñóàëüíîå

ñîâðàùåíèå ðåáåíêà........................................................................225

Ñäåðæàííîñòü.....................................................................................226

Íåãîäîâàíèå.......................................................................................226

Èçìåííèöà.........................................................................................227

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Æåíùèíû, îòîæäåñòâëÿþùèåñÿ ñ áîæåñòâîì

â ñåìüå..............................................................................................229

Ïîíÿòü ãîëîñ Áîãà..............................................................................229

Ìóæ÷èíû è æåíùèíû.......................................................................236

Îòñòóïíè÷åñòâî..................................................................................236

Áîëåå âûñîêàÿ âåðà.............................................................................238

Ðàññòàíîâêà: È ìåðòâûå äîëæíû óñòóïàòü ìåñòî â ñèñòåìå.............238

Ïîäàðîê îòæèçíè...............................................................................243

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ðàíî óìåðøèé îòåö.......................................................243

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Âíóòðåííåå ïðåêðàùåíèå ïðåæíèõ îòíîøåíèé..........247

Íåò õóäà áåç äîáðà..............................................................................250

Ñëåäóþùèé øàã..................................................................................251

Îòñóòñòâèèå ñâîáîäû äåéñòâèé â ñåìüÿõ..........................................251

Ìàòü è åå ðåáåíîê.............................................................................252

Âûïîëíåíèå íåîáõîäèìîãî ïî îòíîøåíèþ ê ñîñòàðèâøèìñÿ

ðîäèòåëÿì........................................................................................252

Ñìåëîñòü îñóùåñòâèòü íåîáõîäèìîå.................................................252

Áóäóùèå âîçìîæíîñòè.......................................................................253

Õîä æèçíè...........................................................................................254

Óâàæàòü è öåíèòü ïðîøëîå................................................................254

Ïîðÿäêè ïðèíàäëåæíîñòè. Ôðàãìåíòû êóðñà äëÿ ñåìåéíûõ

êîíñóëüòàíòîâ...................................................................................255

Ðåøåíèå ïðîáëåìû êàê äóõîâíûé ïðîöåññ.......................................256

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Óñûíîâëåíèå ïðè íåñïîñîáíîñòè èìåòü äåòåé...........257

Ïëàòà çà óñûíîâëåíèå........................................................................262

Î÷åðåäíîñòü îòâåòñòâåííîñòè...........................................................263

Âîçðàæåíèÿ ó÷àñòíèêîâ.....................................................................263

Ïðàâî ðåáåíêà íà ñîáñòâåííûõ ðîäèòåëåé........................................265

Èñöåëåíèå, íàïðàâëåííîå òîëüêî íà ïîìîùü æåðòâå......................265

Ñëåäóþùèé øàã..................................................................................266

Ðåøåíèå ïðîáëåìû ïóòåì åå ðåøåíèÿ..............................................268

Óæàñíîå..............................................................................................269

Ñîñòðàäàíèå è èñêóññòâî çàáûâàòü....................................................270

×òî âàæíåå..........................................................................................271

Âèíà è åå âîçäåéñòâèå íå çàâèñÿò îò ïîëà......................................271

Íåîáõîäèìîñòü îòêàçàòüñÿ îò âîçðàæåíèé........................................271

Ïîíèìàíèå ñóùíîñòè ïðîáëåì è èñöåëåíèå....................................272

Çàâåùàííûå äåòè................................................................................274

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Óñûíîâëåíèå âíåáðà÷íîãî ðåáåíêà æåíû....................275

Âîçâðàùåíèå......................................................................................280

Ïðè÷èíû çàáîëåâàíèé â ñåìüÿõ è èõ èñöåëåíèå.

Ôðàãìåíòû ñåìèíàðà äëÿ ïàöèåíòîâ, òåðàïåâòîâ è âðà÷åé, îðãàíèçîâàííîãî â ðàìêàõ ìåæäóíàðîäíîé êîíôåðåíöèè

«Ìåäèöèíà è ðåëèãèÿ»..............................................................................283

Ââåäåíèå...............................................................................................284

Íåáî è Çåìëÿ.......................................................................................284

Ñåìåéíûå ãðóïïû, ñâÿçàííûå îáùåé ñóäüáîé..................................284

Ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíàÿ ñâÿçü è åå ïîñëåäñòâèÿ....................................284

Ïîäðàæàíèå è óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå......................................................285

Áîëåçíü ñëåäóåò çà äóøîé...................................................................286

«Ëó÷øå ÿ, ÷åì òû»...............................................................................286

Çíàþùàÿ ëþáîâü................................................................................289

Ãîòîâíîñòü ðåáåíêà ê «èñ÷åçíîâåíèþ»..............................................289

Äàæå åñëè òû óéäåøü, ÿ îñòàíóñü......................................................290

«ß ïîñëåäóþ çà òîáîé»........................................................................291

«ß ïîæèâó åùå íåìíîãî»...................................................................291

Âåðà, ñïîñîáñòâóþùàÿ áîëåçíè.........................................................292

Èñöåëÿþùàÿ ëþáîâü..........................................................................292

Áîëåçíü è èñêóïëåíèå âèíû..............................................................293

Êîìïåíñàöèÿ ïóòåì èñêóïëåíèÿ âèíû, ïðèíîñÿùàÿ

äâîéíîå ñòðàäàíèå..........................................................................293

Óðàâíîâåøèâàíèå ïóòåì ïðèíÿòèÿ æèçíè êàê äàðà

è ïðèìèðèòåëüíûõ äåéñòâèé..........................................................294

Èñêóïëåíèå âèíû êàê ñóððîãàò îòíîøåíèé.....................................295

Íà Çåìëå âèíà ïðåõîäÿùà..................................................................296

Áîëåçíü îäíîãî, çàìåùàþùàÿ èñêóïëåíèå äðóãîãî..........................296

Áîëåçíü èç-çà îòêàçà ïðèíÿòü ñîáñòâåííûõ ðîäèòåëåé....................297

Óâàæåíèå ðîäèòåëåé ñîîòâåòñòâóåò óâàæåíèþ Çåìëè.......................297

Íåîñóùåñòâëåííîå.............................................................................297

Ðàññòàíîâêà: «ß ïîñëåäóþ çà òîáîé»..................................................299

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ìàòü ñëåäóåò çà ñâîèì óìåðøèì

ðåáåíêîì-èíâàëèäîì.....................................................................307

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ëó÷øå óìåðåòü, ÷åì ïîêëîíèòüñÿ îòöó........................318

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Ïîñëåäñòâèÿ äåòñêîãî ïîëèîìèåëèòà,

òÿæåëîé áåðåìåííîñòè è òðóäíûõ ðîäîâ........................................324

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Èäåíòèôèêàöèÿ ñ îäíèì èç ÷ëåíîâ ñåìüè

ïðîòèâîïîëîæíîãî ïîëà.................................................................330

Èäåíòèôèêàöèÿ ñ ëèöîì ïðîòèâîïîëîæíîãî ïîëà

êàê ïðè÷èíà ãîìîñåêñóàëüíîñòè è ïñèõîçîâ.................................333

Ñûí â êà÷åñòâå çàìåñòèòåëÿ äðóãà ìàòåðè.................................335

Ïîçíàíèå ñëóæèò îñíîâîé àêòà èñöåëåíèÿ....................................335

Ðàññòàíîâêà: «Ëó÷øå ÿ, ÷åì òû».......................................................336

Ðàññòàíîâêè ñåìüè âîçäåéñòâóþò ÷åðåç îáðàçû âíóòðåííåé êàðòèíû...........................................................................................342

×òî òàêîå «ïðàâèëüíîå»?....................................................................343

Ðàññòàíîâêè ñåìüè ñ ïîìîùüþ ñèìâîëîâ.........................................344

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Îäèí áðàò óìåð âñêîðå ïîñëå ðîæäåíèÿ,

äðóãîé ïîêîí÷èë ñàìîóáèéñòâîì...................................................345

Ñàìîóáèéñòâî èç ëþáâè.....................................................................349

×òîáû çàùèòèòüñÿ îò áîëè, ìû èùåì âèíîâàòîãî...........................349

Íåóìåñòíûå âîïðîñû.........................................................................350

Êàê äîëæåí ïîñòóïàòü òåðàïåâò â ïðîöåññå ðàññòàíîâêè ñåìüè.....350

Êîãäà ñàì ïàöèåíò äîëæåí âñòàòü íà ñâîå ìåñòî â êîíñòåëëÿöèè ... 351

Ðàññòîÿíèå ìåæäó ìåñòàìè óìåðøèõ è æèâûõ â êîíñòåëëÿöèè.....351

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Íàðêîìàíèÿ äî÷åðè âñëåäñòâèå îòñóòñòâèÿ

ìóæñêèõ ýíåðãèé â ñåìåéíîé ñèñòåìå...........................................352

Äåòè äîëæíû ñëåäîâàòü çà ñâîèì îòöîì, òàê æå êàê èõ ìàòü

äîëæíà ñëåäîâàòü çà ñâîèì ìóæåì.................................................357

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Îòñóòñòâèå ýìïàòèè ê ìóæ÷èíàì................................360

Ñèñòåìíîå ïðåâîñõîäñòâî íàñòîÿùåãî..............................................365

 ñåìüÿõ äåòè çàìåùàþò ïàðòíåðîâ ïî îòíîøåíèÿì,

ïðåäøåñòâóþùèì íûíåøíåìó áðàêó ðîäèòåëåé...........................365

Ðîæäåíèå âíåáðà÷íûõ äåòåé âîâðåìÿ áðàêà.................................366

Ñîîáùàòü äåòÿì îá àáîðòå íåëüçÿ.....................................................367

Êîãäà ðåøåíèÿ ïðîáëåìû íåò............................................................368

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Íåñ÷àñòíûé ñëó÷àé ñ ñûíîì â ñîîòâåòñòâèè

ñ ïðàâèëîì: «Ëó÷øå ÿ, ÷åì òû, äîðîãîé ïàïà!».............................369

Ðàññòàíîâêà: Àíîðåêñèÿ êàê ðåçóëüòàò âíóòðåííåãî

óáåæäåíèÿ: «Ëó÷øå ÿ, ÷åì òû, äîðîãîé ïàïà!»..............................373

Âîë÷èé àïïåòèò è ïîñëåäóþùàÿ ðâîòà: áóëèìèÿ.............................377

Êàê âàæíî áûòü â ñîãëàñèè ñ Âûñøèì.............................................378

Äâà ðîäà çíàíèÿ..................................................................................379

Ýïèëîã........................................................................................................381


Èçäàòåëüñòâî Èíñòèòóòà Ïñèõîòåðàïèè
Ìîñêâà
2003
Ïåðåâîä ñ íåìåöêîãî: Èíãðèä È. Ðàö Íàó÷íûé ðåäàêòîð: Ìèõàèë Áóðíÿøåâ
Õåëëèíãåð Á.
Ïîðÿäêè ëþáâè: Ðàçðåøåíèå ñåìåéíî-ñèñòåìíûõ êîíôëèêòîâ è ïðîòèâîðå÷èé. — Ì.: Èçä-âî Èíñòèòóòà Ïñèõîòåðàïèè, 2003. - 400 ñ.
Ýêñêëþçèâíîå ïðàâî èçäàíèÿ êíèãè íà ðóññêîì ÿçûêå
ïðèíàäëåæèò Èíñòèòóòó Ïñèõîòåðàïèè. Âñå ïðàâà çàùèùåíû.
Ëþáàÿ ïåðåïå÷àòêà èçäàíèÿ ÿâëÿåòñÿ íàðóøåíèåì àâòîðñêèõ
ïðàâ è ïðåñëåäóåòñÿ ïî çàêîíó. Îïóáëèêîâàíî ïî ñîãëàøåíèþ ñ àâòîðîì.
Ýòà êíèãà ïðåäñòàâëÿåò ñèñòåìíóþ ñåìåéíóþ òåðàïèþ Áåðòà Õåëëèíãåðà «èç ïåðâûõ ðóê».  íåé ñîáðàíû ñòåíîãðàììû ñåìèíàðîâ, êîòîðûå ìàñòåð ïðîâîäèë äëÿ ðàçíûõ àóäèòîðèé - êàê ïðîôåññèîíàëîâ â îáëàñòè äóøåâíîãî çäîðîâüÿ (ïñèõîòåðàïåâòîâ, ñåìåéíûõ êîíñóëüòàíòîâ, âðà÷åé), òàê è äëÿ ëþäåé, æåëàþùèõ ñïðàâèòüñÿ ñ êðèçèñàìè âî âçàèìîîòíîøåíèÿõ. Ñàì Á. Õåëëèíãåð òàê õàðàêòåðèçóåò ñâîé ïîäõîä:
«Â îòëè÷èå îò êëàññè÷åñêîé ñåìåéíîé òåðàïèè, ñàìûì âàæíûì ýëåìåíòîì ìîåãî ïîäõîäà ÿâëÿåòñÿ îñîçíàíèå òîãî, ÷òî çà ëþáûì ïîâåäåíèåì, äàæå çà òåì, êîòîðîå êàæåòñÿ íàì î÷åíü ñòðàííûì, ñòîèò ëþáîâü. Ñêðûòîé äåéñòâóþùåé ñèëîé âñåõ ñèìïòîìîâ òîæå ÿâëÿåòñÿ ëþáîâü. Ñëåäîâàòåëüíî, î÷åíü âàæíî, ÷òîáû ïñèõîòåðàïåâò íàøåë òó òî÷êó, ãäå ñîñðåäîòî÷åíà âñÿ ýíåðãèÿ ëþáâè ÷åëîâåêà, òàê êàê çäåñü íàõîäèòñÿ è êîðåíü åãî ñåìåéíîé ïðîáëåìû, è êëþ÷ ê ðàçðåøåíèþ òðóäíîñòåé».
«Èíñòðóìåíòàëüíàÿ ñòîðîíà» ïîäõîäà — ïðèåìû è òåõíèêè — ÿðêî ïðîèëëþñòðèðîâàíû ïðèìåðàìè, ïðîÿñíÿþùèìè ïðèðîäó ñêðûòûõ ñèñòåìíî-ñåìåéíûõ ïåðåïëåòåíèé è ïóòè èõ ðàçðåøåíèÿ.
×èòàòåëü ïîëó÷àåò ðåäêóþ âîçìîæíîñòü íåïîñðåäñòâåííî íàáëþäàòü ðàáîòó ìàñòåðà, ñîïåðåæèâàòü åå ó÷àñòíèêàì è âìåñòå ñ íèìè èñêàòü ðåøåíèÿ èõ ïðîáëåì (à ìîæåò áûòü, è ñâîèõ ñîáñòâåííûõ).
ISBN 5-89939-049-2
© Â. Heffinger, 2000
© Èçä-âî Èíñòèòóòà Ïñèõîòåðàïèè, 2001, 2003

Âíèìàíèå !

Ïðîèçâîäèòñÿ ïðåäâàðèòåëüíàÿ çàïèñü â äîëãîñðî÷íóþ îáó÷àþùóþ ãðóïïó ïî ñèñòåìíîé

òåðàïèè Á. Õåëëèíãåðà. Íà÷àëî ïðîãðàììû ïëàíèðóåòñÿ â 2002 ãîäó.

òåë.: (095) 474-2541, 474-1101.

ÎÁÓ×ÀÞÙÈÉ ÂÈÄÅÎÔÈËÜÌ:

ÑÈÑÒÅÌÍÀß ÏÑÈÕÎÒÅÐÀÏÈß Á.ÕÅËËÈÍÃÅÐÀ.

Çàïèñü ñåìèíàðà ïðîõîäèâøåãî 19-21 èþëÿ 2001 ã. â ã. Ìîñêâå. Âåäóùèé Ãóíòõàðä Âåáåð (Ãåðìàíèÿ), âåäóùèé ñïåöèàëèñò ïî ñåìåéíûì è îðãàíèçàöèîííûì ðàññòàíîâêàì, àâòîð êíèãè «Êðèçèñû ëþáâè: Ñèñòåìíàÿ ïñèõîòåðàïèÿ Á. Õåëëèíãåðà», äèðåêòîð Èíñòèòóòà ñèñòåìíûõ ðåøåíèé.

òåë.: (095) 474-2541, 474-1101


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